Dealing with issues of narcissism in the intimate relationship poses an additional challenge in the treatment room, where the narcissist’s typical approval seeking, entitled, controlling, “victim/martyr”, and passive-aggressive reactions and behaviors, are often paired with a partner who becomes burdened by the newly awakened or reawakened challenges of self- doubt, self-diminishment, subjugation, and self-sacrifice.

Narcissists are notorious for their denial, defensiveness, devaluation, and defiantly detached reactions when confronted about betraying, controlling, and gaslighting behaviors, along with other hurtful patterns that arise in their intimate relationship. Restoring trust and intimacy can seem like an overwhelming and insurmountable endeavor. The stakes are high. Weighing the consequences of staying with or leaving the narcissist can be complex. The impact on financial security and the well-being of children, as well as the offended partner’s health and wellness are often the collateral damage of long-term coercive control and gaslighting. The looming question: Is it even possible to heal trust after narcissistically driven betrayal, gaslighting, and
coercive control?

Schema therapy offers an effective conceptualization and treatment protocol; one that does not insist on exclusive conjoint work. This approach appreciates the fragility (and possible unsafety) of high stakes relationships and the need for a flexible approach, where individual treatment and conjoint treatment are part of a carefully timed and integrated plan. At the center of the work is the need to deconstruct a toxic narrative that has deleterious effects on the relationship, the family, and perhaps continues to perpetuate a perilous legacy for generations.

Attendance and Location Details

Date and Time

**This is a 4-CE online seminar delivered virtually in real-time via an industry-standard webinar platform**

Friday, September 5, 2025 9:00am to 1:00pm CST / 10:00am to 2:00pm EST / 7:00am to 11:00am PST

*Live Webinar Attendees: Zoom link and course materials will be made available to you 24-48 hours prior to event date

Agenda:

9:00am – 10:15am: Narcissistic traits and coping modes, assessing for betrayal trauma, and identifying attachment ruptures.

10:15am – 11:30am: Treatment strategies, listening for schema modes, and responding to each mode.

11:30am – 11:45am: Break

11:45am – 1:00pm: Identifying therapists’ personal triggers, defusing those triggers, and developing empathic confrontation and the therapeutic relationship to drive change.

Objectives:

This training will provide participants clinical knowledge and tools to:

a). After completing this training, participants will be able to identify narcissistic traits and coping modes, including coercive control and gaslighting.

b). After completing this training, participants will be able to assess for betrayal trauma and potential need for full disclosure by hypersexual partner.

c). After completing this training, participants will be able to identify attachment ruptures and activating conditions in the cycles of conflict.

d). After completing this training, participants will be able to address dysfunctional mode cycle clashes and conflict activations using emotion-focused strategies, CBT strategies, and the essential therapy relationship, aimed at healing schemas, bypassing self-defeating patterns, and meeting frustrated core unmet needs.

e). After completing this training, participants will be able to listen for and discern modes of anger (bullying, resentful adult, defiantly detached or childlike victim) as linked with schemas and early experiences / unmet needs.

f). After completing this training, participants will be able to respond to each mode: ventilating, reality testing, setting limits, holding accountable, adapting expressions of anger with healthy adult mode engagement.

g). After completing this training, participants will be able to be aware of physical cues that indicate your own personal triggers impeding progress.

i). After completing this training, participants will be able to identify and defuse your emotional triggers and shift into a sturdy stance.

j). After completing this training, participants will be able to apply therapy relationship strategies, as well as empathic confrontation and limit-setting to help clients reflect on and replace self-defeating reactions with healthy and adaptive responses.

Target Audience:

The target audience for this live webinar event includes psychologists, social workers, counselors, MFT’s, and other clinical mental health professionals.

Instructional Level: Intermediate

Instructor(s): Wendy Behary, MSW, LCSW

Material Author(s): Wendy Behary, MSW, LCSW

With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST. Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, “Disarming the Narcissist…” translated in 15 languages. The Third Edition was recently released. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room. Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems.

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